The Practical Reason to Own Your Shadow

Uncategorized Nov 06, 2019

Hi everybody. It’s Dmitri Bilgere with another tip on how you can become the inspired leader that you were born to be. 

Today I want to talk about the practical reason why you need to “own your shadow,” and how to do it.

So I was out walking my dogs and I went by a house that had in their front yard a little free library. If you’re in the United States you might know what that is. It’s this box on a stick that has a door and it’s got books in it. People can add books to it and take books from it. It’s a "little free library." Pretty cool.

And on their lawn, right next to the little free library, was a yard sign that said something along the lines of, “No matter who you are, no matter where you’re from, no matter your creed or religion or race, we’re glad you’re here.” A great sentiment.

Oh, and then on the front of the little free library they put a note that said, “Do not put Christian...

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You Are the Sum of What You Look At

Uncategorized Oct 30, 2019


Hi everybody. It’s Dmitri Bilgere here with another tip about how you can be the inspired leader you were born to be, both at work, at home, and all over your life.

What I want to talk about today is, I was thinking about that saying—you may have heard it—it’s the saying that, “You’re the sum of the five people you spend the most time with.” 

And I think that maybe before the internet age that was true, but it’s really not true anymore. I think today what you are is, “You are the sum of what you look at.” Especially on the internet, but I think you are the sum of what you look at.

The idea used to be if you hung around with certain people, they would rub off on you. Their attitudes would rub off on you. Their ways of thinking about things. That you’d be influenced even if you thought these were just little interactions that didn’t really matter, you’re gonna be influenced.


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Sometimes the best thing in life are things you wouldn't "order off the menu"

Uncategorized Oct 24, 2019


Hi everybody. Dmitri Bilgere here with another tip on how you can be the leader you were born to be. 

So today I want to talk about this idea of, “The best things in life are often things that we would not have ordered off the menu.” As we get older, we get to know ourselves better and we get to know what we like and what we don’t like, and we have more and more responsibilities. What starts to happen is the menu of options for what we’re open to in our lives starts to constrict. Right? 

We all want to stay fresh and vibrant and growing. But it turns out that as you get to know yourself better and you get to know more of what you don’t like and what you do like, our focus starts to constrict. That menu becomes shorter and shorter of things we’re willing to pick from for what we care about in our lives. And that makes us stagnant. It actually does. It’s the downside of knowing yourself better: You become less...

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The Simple Way I Got My Focus Back

Uncategorized Sep 24, 2019

I had lost my focus. I couldn’t sit at my desk and work on something. My attention was all over the place. It was getting to be a real problem.

In today’s 4-minute video, I share the simple solution I found, that might help you, too.

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What are you best at?

Uncategorized May 21, 2019


Hey everybody, Dmitri Bilgere here. I just wanted to talk a little bit today about what are you best at. 

I saw last weekend Cirque du Soleil, and it really reminded me of just how well it is possible to do something. I would swear I saw many things that were impossible to do, they did it so well. And if you’ve ever watched Cirque du Soleil or seen one of their videos or something, you know what I’m talking about. And it was a real reminder for me about how well it is possible to do things. Just seeing Cirque du Soleil, seeing how well they did stuff—everything was off the charts, every single detail. 

And it inspired me and it made me really think about, What do I do well? And this is an important question, because we can’t do everything well—like, Cirque-du-Soleil-well. We can’t be our best at everything. And I think in a lot of ways that really doesn’t matter. 

For instance, I’m one of these people, I...

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The most destructive thing that you probably believe—and what to do about it.

beliefs inspiration May 02, 2019


I want to talk to you today about the worst thing that you can believe—that somewhere in your life, you do believe—and I’m going to talk about how you can overcome that in a pretty straightforward fashion.

First off, what is the most destructive belief you can have? We’ll get right to it: The most destructive belief you can have is the belief that what you do doesn’t matter.

If you have a belief somewhere in your life that what you do doesn’t matter, that’s it. It’s game over at that point. That’s gonna take the wind out of your sails. That’s gonna stop everything.

I run into this sometimes, just like other people. Right now I’m working on an online facilitation training course—a massive amount of work. And in the last couple days things have come up and I haven’t been able to get much done on it, and I start thinking to myself, “Well, it doesn’t really matter how much I do on this...

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Where is your King?

Where is your King?

Hi, everybody. Dmitri here. 

I’ve been hearing this question a lot in men’s groups lately: “Where is your king?” And it’s actually a great question, because it can help focus you on what’s truly important to you when you’re having a difficult time. So I want to talk about it for just a couple minutes here. 

First off, this question, “Where is your king?”

When do we find ourselves asking this question?

We find ourselves asking this question when someone is having a hard time and complaining about some kind of a hard time. At least, this is what I see in the men’s groups that I’ve been in. 

A man may be complaining about his job, some difficulty at work. Or being out of work and being discouraged. Or a relationship issue, something like that. And the guy will be complaining about it and someone will ask, “Hey, where is your King?”

Asking this question is a way to...

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Join me on an 'outrage fast'


 Are you addicted to outrage? If you have an internet connection, the answer is probably "yes." And it's not helping how you feel, and it's not helping make the world better.
You can make the world a better place without being outraged, miserable and bitter. Watch and find out how.  
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Join me on an Outrage Fast

Hey, everybody. Dmitri Bilgere here. 

You’ve probably heard the saying, “If you’re not outraged, you’re not paying attention.” And that saying is a problem, right? Because paying attention to everything that’s going on these days means being upset. It means being outraged. It means being flipped out. At least, to most people it occurs that way. We’re going to get into that.

I believe you should be able to change the world, you should be able to heal the world, without having to be flipped out and upset and outraged all the time. And I’ve got a very specific solution for this...

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Should You "Kick a Man when he’s Down?" Or YOURSELF?

compassion love Mar 06, 2019


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There’s a famous personal development guy—I’m not going to say who he is—and he said, “You should always kick a man when he’s down. He’ll get up faster.”  

But what that doesn’t speak to is, what sort of a person gets up?

When you bully yourself—and we’ll talk about you, here—when you bully yourself into getting up and ignoring your feelings and forcing your way through anyway, what kind of a person do you turn into? 

I think this is pretty important, because we’re all really told that when you’re down, when you’re not doing well, or when you feel stuck, what you really need is a good kick in the ass. Now, sometimes that’s true, a kick in the ass will help. But most of the time, it really isn’t what you need. 

There’s so much "kick yourself harder" going around. I saw an article online that said, “Why you need to...

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