Hey everybody, Dmitri Bilgere here. I just wanted to talk a little bit today about what are you best at.
I saw last weekend Cirque du Soleil, and it really reminded me of just how well it is possible to do something. I would swear I saw many things that were impossible to do, they did it so well. And if you’ve ever watched Cirque du Soleil or seen one of their videos or something, you know what I’m talking about. And it was a real reminder for me about how well it is possible to do things. Just seeing Cirque du Soleil, seeing how well they did stuff—everything was off the charts, every single detail.
And it inspired me and it made me really think about, What do I do well? And this is an important question, because we can’t do everything well—like, Cirque-du-Soleil-well. We can’t be our best at everything. And I think in a lot of ways that really doesn’t matter.
For instance, I’m one of these people, I...
I want to talk to you today about the worst thing that you can believe—that somewhere in your life, you do believe—and I’m going to talk about how you can overcome that in a pretty straightforward fashion.
First off, what is the most destructive belief you can have? We’ll get right to it: The most destructive belief you can have is the belief that what you do doesn’t matter.
If you have a belief somewhere in your life that what you do doesn’t matter, that’s it. It’s game over at that point. That’s gonna take the wind out of your sails. That’s gonna stop everything.
I run into this sometimes, just like other people. Right now I’m working on an online facilitation training course—a massive amount of work. And in the last couple days things have come up and I haven’t been able to get much done on it, and I start thinking to myself, “Well, it doesn’t really matter how much I do on this...
Where is your King?
Hi, everybody. Dmitri here.
I’ve been hearing this question a lot in men’s groups lately: “Where is your king?” And it’s actually a great question, because it can help focus you on what’s truly important to you when you’re having a difficult time. So I want to talk about it for just a couple minutes here.
First off, this question, “Where is your king?”
When do we find ourselves asking this question?
We find ourselves asking this question when someone is having a hard time and complaining about some kind of a hard time. At least, this is what I see in the men’s groups that I’ve been in.
A man may be complaining about his job, some difficulty at work. Or being out of work and being discouraged. Or a relationship issue, something like that. And the guy will be complaining about it and someone will ask, “Hey, where is your King?”
Asking this question is a way to...
Join me on an Outrage Fast
Hey, everybody. Dmitri Bilgere here.
You’ve probably heard the saying, “If you’re not outraged, you’re not paying attention.” And that saying is a problem, right? Because paying attention to everything that’s going on these days means being upset. It means being outraged. It means being flipped out. At least, to most people it occurs that way. We’re going to get into that.
I believe you should be able to change the world, you should be able to heal the world, without having to be flipped out and upset and outraged all the time. And I’ve got a very specific solution for this...
There’s a famous personal development guy—I’m not going to say who he is—and he said, “You should always kick a man when he’s down. He’ll get up faster.”
But what that doesn’t speak to is, what sort of a person gets up?
When you bully yourself—and we’ll talk about you, here—when you bully yourself into getting up and ignoring your feelings and forcing your way through anyway, what kind of a person do you turn into?
I think this is pretty important, because we’re all really told that when you’re down, when you’re not doing well, or when you feel stuck, what you really need is a good kick in the ass. Now, sometimes that’s true, a kick in the ass will help. But most of the time, it really isn’t what you need.
There’s so much "kick yourself harder" going around. I saw an article online that said, “Why you need to...
I want to talk some today about the ant and the grasshopper.
Do you remember the ant and the grasshopper story?
This story messed with me so bad as a kid, and I realize now that there’s actually kind of a moral to it that I’m pretty sure wasn’t intended.
So--The ant and the grasshopper.
I’m a little kid, I’m reading this book, and here’s the grasshopper: the grasshopper likes to have fun and play his banjo all the time and party and relax and feel good about things and enjoy his life.
And then there’s the ant, and the ant is always working. Work, work, work. The ant works like 10, 20 hours a day. Constantly working. And the grasshopper’s having a good time and the ant’s working working working working.
And then I’ll never forget the last page of the book. It’s the grasshopper out in the snow starving because he didn’t plan ahead and he didn’t...